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Our Kink Podcast Episode Seven – Oz Kink Fest Bumper Edition

Our Kink starts its journey into Oz Kink Fest. And who better to start it with than OKF creator, producer and general Head Honcho, Mz Mallice. In this episode we chat with Mz Mallice about the birth Oz Kink Fest, mull over how it’s changed and developed over the last ten years, and get some insights into how this year is shaping up to be the biggest yet. And then indulge a little longer as we spend some time with Fetish Expo 2017 Volunteer Co-ordinator, and all-round wonderful person, Torny. Find out what it’s like to be part of the voluntary crew who make this totally unique day actually function, and discover what it takes to be one of them. This is a huge episode featuring some big guests working on a massive event

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Our Kink Podcast Episode Six – Wax Play

In this episode, recorded during MisKnickers’ Birthday Party, Mistress Jane and The Knickered One play wax with a willing bunny. Mistress Jane provides colour commentary and questions as MisKnickers provides answers and applies the waxy artwork to bunny’s skin. We cover types of wax, methods of application, safety tips, and “artistic method” among other things. Oh … and we’ll be adding photos. Also, a special guest joins us by phone from across the other side of the country for a VERY exciting announcement! Our Kink, in partnership with Oz Kink Fest and Mistress Electra Amore, will be presenting a panel discussion with audience Q & A as part of Oz Kink Fest on Wednesday, September 20th. Check our Events Calendar for more details, and listen as Mistress Electra explains her role in the event and her excitement to visit Melbourne and be a part of Oz Kink Fest!

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Our Kink Podcast Episode Five – Age Play

In this episode, MisKnickers and Mistress Jane welcome back professional age player, kinkster, and little Marina Lee to discuss age play. We discuss what defines age play, its place in the kink community, and how prevailing attitudes shape our perception of what is and isn’t acceptable both within and beyond the world of kink and fetish. The discussion begins, as it should, with an outline of what age play is, and the variety of roles that exist within the dynamic. We take a look at what the players actually get out of their kink and how the goal-setting exercises that often exist within age play can benefit other areas of the player’s life, and the place of age play within a broader range of D/s dynamics. We devote time to the controversy that has typically surrounded the idea of age play, and in doing so try to break down some…

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Creating Your Self-Care Repertoire

We all have days when we just can’t be bothered; we don’t want to eat, or shower, or answer the phone. We just want to stay where we are and mostly forget about the world. Decent self-care comes with self-awareness – there’s only so many days in a row we can stay in bed, watching Netflix and eating crap, and still honestly say ‘we’re just doing what we need to do to look after ourselves’. Obviously, the number of days will vary by individual and situation, but to look after ourselves, we need to be honest in acknowledging when we’re in an unhelpful routine. Sometimes these slumps hit after we’ve taken on too much and ‘burnt out’, sometimes we actively resist looking after ourselves as a form of self-punishment and devaluation. Some of us even neglect our self-care because we honestly think that we’re coping, with one decent meal a…

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Our Kink Podcast Episode Four – Sadomasochism

This episode OurKink is sadomasochism and who better to join Mistress Jane and MisKnickers for an unfiltered discussion of SnM than the incredible poly sadomasochistic top, Jilf. Known mostly for her sadistic topping, and repeated entries to FetLife’s ‘Kinky and Popular’ for images resulting from her play, Jilf chats to the OurKink team about her style of sadism, and her more recent explorations into the world of masochism. For our edgier kinksters, this is a truly unmissable episode!

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The Snowflakes Fall On the Ever-Changing Landscape of Gender Language

In our community, we’re all pretty awesome at learning and using new terminology as it evolves, particularly when much of it defines our sexual and/or gender preferences. Relatively few of us identify as cis-gendered, and due to our receptivity to and curiosity for ‘the other’, it’s no surprise there is quite the banquet of non-binary identifiers. The same can’t be said of everyone, though. Non-binary has absolutely made the mainstream, and with it, the mainstream bullshit that goes with it, ie. There is only the binary and anyone trying to avoid it is just trying to get attention via being yet another special snowflake. Right?! When we did Episode Two of our podcast with Dance Movement Psychotherapist, Frank Farrugia, the conversation around the language of gender got some incredibly positive feedback, and a vast number of our listeners were struck by use of the term ‘post-gender’. For some, it was…

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Kink and Therapy

Let’s face it… It can be hard for people practicing kink to find a therapist who is not only going to be accepting of our degree of participation in the lifestyle, but comfortable hearing about some of the things we explore, and how this activity works with our mental health. Many of us have sought help at one time or another but find ourselves unsure how much we can tell them, and fearful that potential disclosures could lead to judgement, or even the loss of that therapist. It’s part of the lingering stigma we deal with in this community. Therapy isn’t cheap, but it’s an investment we make hoping for a great pay-off. It’s really important to invest in the right person for you. You don’t have to pay to be fearful of telling a traditional, straight, cis-male, full of Freudian wisdoms, about your love of masochism. In fact, there are therapies available that aren’t dependent on the tradition ‘talk’ methods eg….

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Our Kink Podcast Episode Three – Professional Submission

As always, this week Mistress Jane and MisKnickers are joined by another delightful guest. This time it’s Aussie escort, pro-submissive, kinkster and international porn star, Marina Lee. Together we discuss Marina’s brand of submission and love of sex work, and explore how these two passions culminated to craft a niche that seeks to both satisfy and educate. And of course, there’s some juicy talk on the sexiness that is negotiation, and lots of chat on safety and sex worker rights.

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Our Kink Podcast Episode Two – Self Care

For Episode Two, MisKnickers and Mistress Jane are joined by Dance/Movement Psychotherapist, Frank Farrugia to talk self care – why it’s so important, how we can enable it, and how it can change our lives when we do. Frank’s journey is fascinating to say the least, identifying as agender (or even postgender ) and recounting their upbringing in a cult-like environment through their self-discovery experience and beyond, their insights into self-care are hugely valuable. Find Frank in our Connections Kink-Friendly Directory here. Or visit intuitivepantomime.com.

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Meet More Stars of Aussie Feminist Porn

At the moment the fastest growing audience for porn is women. This doesn’t come as much of a surprise when you consider they’re the biggest group to be excluded (as viewers), be it by societal taboos, film content, or physical accessibility. The internet changed all that; easy access (no more trips to the XXX Shoppe), more content than you could ever need, and a new idea of anonymity that allows many taboos to be dropped. Mainstream producers have tried to cash-in on this new audience, and have succeeded to varying degrees, but women are one of the biggest viewers of amateur porn, and male directors and producers trying to cater to what they’ve been told are female fantasies are often missing the point – the subject matter may be more appealing to women, but it’s still filmed via the masculine eye; the camera still looks to the places men see…

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